A Moment in Time

*From the Stolen Moments monologue by Olivia Pope*

“You have nothing. You have a pile of secrets and lies, and you’re calling it love. And in the meantime you’re letting your whole life pass you by while they raise children and celebrate anniversaries and grow old together. You’re frozen in time. You’re holding your breath. You’re a statue waiting for something that’s never going to happen. Living for stolen moments in hotel hallways and coat closets and you keep telling yourself they all add up to something real because in your mind they have to but they don’t. They won’t. They never will. Because stolen moments aren’t a life. So you have nothing. You have no one. End it now.” ~Olivia Pope

Just a quote on this Tuesday. Hopefully it reaches someone who needs it.

~B

What a Great Story Line…part one

I remember growing up I wanted to be three things, a Huxtable, from Cabrini Green and a student at Hillman College. (Judge Not, less ye be judged first!) I’m sure the wanting to be from Cabrini Green through most of you for a loop, but it will all make sense momentarily. As a young girl I remember being exposed to positive and influential women of color. Women who even though they were fictional characters (the only “reality” television back then was MTV’s Real World) I wanted to be like when I grew up.

Claire Huxtable the ideal African-American woman. A Mother, Wife and Career Woman

Claire Huxtable the ideal African-American woman. A Mother, Wife and Career Woman

Claire Huxtable for starters,  a wife, a mother of five and a lawyer. She was able to balance a full-time career, full-time parenting and her duties as a wife all while being extremely fashionable at the same time. Although we never actually saw them “argue” the Huxtables maintained a healthy marriage, open dialogue between themselves and their children, and never strayed from morals and values. Her character was well written and brilliantly portrayed by Phylicia Rashaad who even now is the upper echelon of what a beautiful black woman should be. Who wouldn’t want to be a Huxtable and have a mother like Claire? Continue reading

Gardens and Blogs

“No one elected you! You’re not the president! You don’t way in on foreign policy! Your opinion doesn’t matter! You are the first lady. Your job is to plant gardens and decorate rooms and let them blog about your clothes. You’re ornamental, not functional. So, don’t come into the oval and try to use your brain because no one cares.”

~President Fitzgerald Grant

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Sally Hemings of the 21st Century

Shonda Rhimes is probably the most hated black woman in America right now, since this time last year she has kept us all on the edge of our seats, flying by the seat of our pants waiting and watching to see what happens next with Olivia Pope (Kerry Washington) and Fitzgerald Grant (Fitz) (Tony Goldwyn) on the hit show “Scandal”.

For the past two seasons loyal viewers or “Gladiators” have been on an emotional rollercoaster as we watch to see which way the torrid affair between Liv and Fitz will go. I will be the first to admit I am “Team Fitz”, despite the nature and the scandal of their relationship I want him to get the girl he is so in love with. timthumbWomen are quick to express their disdain for infidelity but glue themselves to the television every Thursday. I was scrolling my Instagram newsfeed during the season finale last week and came across and interesting comparison. Olivia Pope is the modern-day Sally Hemings.

Sarah “Sally” Hemings is rumored to have been the slave mistress of President Thomas Jefferson and that he fathered at least four of her six children. Do I dare say that the comparison between the two affairs is valid? After analyzing both (although one is completely fictional and scripted) I would have to agree there is a valid argument.
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The Side Chick Chronicles~Part Two

*Personally I feel that being a side chick, mistress and or other woman is counterproductive to your growth as a woman. What is that you gain from being someone’s dirty little secret? Money? A sense of security? A wet behind? It is sad that so many people (women especially) are settling for such a lifestyle. But here it is Part Two of the Side Chick Chronicles, the remaining five Commandments.*

6) Thou Shall Not Have Unprotected Sex; this is self-explanatory but there are plenty of women out here raw dogging a man who is sleeping with someone else with a condom. (And let’s be realistic if he is cheating on his better half with you what makes you think he is faithful to you? Don’t worry I’ll wait) With so many communicable diseases floating around you should want to protect yourself from catching something you can’t get rid of. (there are less extreme cases than HIV/AIDS like Herpes Simplex, syphilis, and Genital Warts) Not only that, but you also run the risk of an unplanned (or planned) pregnancy. No man is going to allow his side piece to carry and give birth to his seed, so by getting knocked up you are asking for problems and a trip to the clinic.

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