Frida Kahlo to Marty McConnell

frida-11“leaving is not enough; you must
stay gone. train your heart
like a dog. change the locks
even on the house he’s never
visited. you lucky, lucky girl.
you have an apartment
just your size. a bathtub
full of tea. a heart the size
of Arizona, but not nearly
so arid. don’t wish away
your cracked past, your
crooked toes, your problems
are paper mache puppets
you made or bought because the vendor
at the market was so compelling you just
had to have them. you had to have him.
and you did. and now you pull down
the bridge between your houses.
you make him call before
he visits. you take a lover
for granted, you take
a lover who looks at you
like maybe you are magic. make
the first bottle you consume
in this place a relic. place it
on whatever altar you fashion
with a knife and five cranberries.
don’t lose too much weight.
stupid girls are always trying
to disappear as revenge. and you
are not stupid. you loved a man
with more hands than a parade
of beggars, and here you stand. heart
like a four-poster bed. heart like a canvas.
heart leaking something so strong
they can smell it in the street.”

*I wanted to share this for many reasons. When dealing with relationships over any nature as women we tend to be thought of as the weaker, believing that no matter what we will always come back. This poem is the epitome of strength and it drips self worth! Be strong, Be Bold Be Beautiful!” ~B

Tattoo Tuesday…

“Heavily tattooed women can be said to control and subvert the ever-present ‘male gaze’ by forcing men (and women) to look at their bodies in a manner that exerts control.”~Margo Demello

As I was getting dressed for work this morning I stopped to admire the art that covers nearly 85% of my right arm. Each tattoo carefully chosen and strategically placed so that once complete the canvas will stand out and make complete sense. Today’s dress is short sleeved which of course allows each spot of ink of to be seen. While outside of my corporate job I am simply Brendolyn a woman with lots of tattoos who is proud to show them off. However, once I step foot inside my office I take on the role of a professional, one who seeks to be respected by not only her peers, but her subordinates as well as her superiors. Being young and being a woman is difficult enough, without standing out; right? So as I dressed this morning, putting on a cardigan to cover my tattooed arms I smiled because even I know that my tattoos do not impede my ability to do my job and to do my job well. For I am the “Tattooed Admin” and we all know, tattooed people do everything better.


Happy Tattoo Tuesday!!

Hashtag MCM (Man Crush Monday)

Do you know what today is? It is “Man Crush Monday”, the one day of the week where you are allowed to shoon over some random man. I rarely do “MCM but today I woke up and decided that I wanted to dedicate today to my favorite actor, philanthropist and all around insane genius, Russell Brand. I have been a fan of Brand since he starred in “Get Him to the Greek” with Jonah Hill. While doing research on homelessness in America not long ago I came across his videos and quotes and fell in love all over again. So here he is ladies, my “MCM.


“The most insightful thing I ever heard, was overheard. I was waiting for a rail replacement bus in Hackney Wick. These two old women weren’t even talking to me – not because I’d offended them, I hadn’t, I’d been angelic at that bus stop, except for the eavesdropping. Rail replacement buses take an eternity, because they think they’re doing you a favour by covering for the absent train, you’ve no recourse. Eventually the bus appeared, on the distant horizon, and one of the women, with the relief and disbelief that often accompanies the arrival of public transport said, ‘Oh look, the bus is coming.’ The other woman – a wise woman, seemingly aware that her words and attitude were potent and poetic enough to form the final sentence in a stranger’s book – paused, then said, ‘The bus was always coming.” ~Russell Brand

“The Shadow”

“It cannot be grasped. Chase your shadow and it will, flee; turn your back on it and it will follow you. It is also a person’s dark side, the thing that makes them mysterious. After they have given us pleasure, the shadow of their withdrawal makes us yearn for their return, much as clouds make us yearn for the sun.”