Three Sides to Every Story (Mad Monday)

I have always been told there are three sides to every story, your side, my side and the truth. In any situation where there is more than one person involved there is going to be a different story from each party, each person’s account or recollection of what happened will be different, each containing both fact and fiction (or embellishment of the truth). You ever seen a movie or a show where there is a group of people telling the story of how something happened and there is a montage or flash back? Each person’s flash back is different from the others, this is true in real life only there are no flashbacks.

Most recently in the news and on the gossip and entertainment blogs we have learned of the public altercation between reality tv star Evelyn Lozada of VH1’s Basketball Whores I mean Wives and NFL’er Chad “Ochocinco” Johnson. It has been reported that Chad and Ev got in an argument over a receipt she found for condoms in the couple’s car. First of all PAUSE, we all saw the episode of Basketball Wives when Ev told Chad that he could cheat as long as he used protection. Obviously she was merely putting on for the cameras and the viewers cause she surely had a fit about the receipt. Without going into all the details because in reality I don’t care Evelyn made a big scene and Chad head butted her. (I don’t know what Grown ass STRAIGHT man would headbutt a female but he did, allegedly) Evelyn went to a neighbors where she called police and they along with paramedics tended to the “battered” woman and her 3-inch gas on her forehead.

Full details on the Evelyn and Chad Johnson saga including the official police report :

I don’t condone the abuse of women by a man, I believe that grown people should keep their hands to themselves. Evelyn is no angel, as she has shown us on numerous occasions she has a sharp tongue and an ill-temper. Chad has told his side of the story insinuating that it was in fact Ev that head butted him. (Is this far-fetched? Not in the least. ) Keep in mind Ev is the same person that hit Jennifer Williams over the top of the head with clutch and tossed a bottle of wine at Kenya at a close range. This marriage and relationship between these two was a reach anyway, especially with them discussing having an open-relationship. My point of all of this is that, while Evelyn is getting all this publicity and making out to be the victim she may have very well provoked the situation. There is a woman right now getting her ass whooped because she accidentally unplugged the XBox in the middle of Call of Duty, but we aren’t making a big fuss out of that. Chad has been arrested and ultimately released from his contract with the Miami Dolphins and labeled an abuser. Do we believe that Evelyn will press charges and leave her husband of five weeks? Maybe, maybe not. Did Tina leave Ike the first time?

Just Another Number

On Monday March 12, 2012 the St. Louis Metropolitan Police Department gave out a number, 20. The number was given to Sarah Billingsley-Walker, 18 of Wellston. The Vashon High School Senior was found dead in the home of Leonard Johnson, 17, her cause of death, a “mystery”. There were no visible bruises or marks on her and no sign of struggle or fowl play. I learned of Sarah’s death early in the afternoon on Tuesday while talking to a co-worker, I was busy complaining about my day and whining about a denied time off request when my co-worker said, “I’m sorry all that is happening, one of our kids was killed last night.” Working with the demographic of youth that I service it is nothing surprising to learn that one of them has lost their lives. Before asking the next question, I’d got in my mind that it was one of the male youth and he had been shot, it never crossed my mind that it would be a young lady and that her life would’ve been taken in such a cruel manner. As the day went on, we learned more details of Sarah’s death from sources close to her, Leonard was on the run and was being urged to turn himself in to police.Sarah Billingsley-Walker The full story of this tragic story can be found here as written on

Lets play the numbers game:

Everyday, more than 3 women in the U.S  are killed by their husband or boyfriend, so Sarah is not the first to lose her life at the hands of a man (in this case boy) that  claimed to love her. Nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls admit to being in a situation where their boyfriend has threatened them with violence or self-harm if presented with a break-up. Every 9 seconds a woman is assaulted or beaten. 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault or abuse by a partner each year. Most cases of domestic violence are never reported to police. (The reporting source for these facts is National Coalition Against Domestic Violence )

Unfortunately the death of Sarah Billingsley-Walker, will be put in the book as Homicide # 20 in the City of St. Louis, but she wasn’t just another number. She was a daughter, a sister, and a friend. She was a young woman with a bright future ahead of her, she was her school’s Valedictorian, she was Homecoming Queen and a member of the National Honor Society. What we also have to realize is that at some point before her death she was a victim of domestic violence, I can’t say if anyone knew and didn’t help her. This is not a Lifetime movie, its real life and it happens everyday to women we come in constant contact with. If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship I encourage you to seek help. Everything in life is fixable, except death, don’t wait until you have a number to make a difference.

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE

I wear my purple ribbon for Sarah Billingsley-Walker.