Thirty before 30

Happy New Year! Clearly I am about one month and 1 day late but better late than never; right? As we have entered the second month of 2015 I am reminded that in a little less than 100 days I will enter a new phase of life; I will be turning the big THREE-O. I have dreaded turning thirty since I turned twenty-five, I even tried shaving a few years off my age by telling a little white lie for three years. [I got away with it until my son started telling all my secrets] So here I am, just a few months shy of the dreaded new decade and I am surprisingly excited. My twenties were not all that bad, but they weren’t all that great either; however I am looking forward to my thirties being my best years yet. Over the weekend I found myself thinking of all the things that a woman should know [and or posses] before [ or by the time] she turns thirty. So I decided to compile a list and leave them here with you. So here we go.

30. How to change a tire~ This one is self-explanatory; especially considering the whole damsel in distress act has long since played out. I realize there is a such thing as AAA and Roadside Assistance; but in the off chance your cell phone is dead and you blow a flat this is something a woman no longer in her twenties should know.

29. How to politely, diplomatically and tastefully check someone ~I think it goes without saying that by time you reach your thirties a woman should be a little less snappy and a lot more poised. Less neck rolling and more word venom.

28. How to small talk in a social setting and do a classy two-step at office parties and conservative events ~ Being shy and reserved should be reserved for your younger years, the ability to create conversation should come with age. The older you get the wiser. And please, save your bar crawl for a time when your boss is not in attendance.

27. A Passport~ I will be the first to admit that I have yet to leave the country; despite being well traveled nationally I have never taken a cruise or seen the ocean from the other side of the world. However, I know that should an opportunity for international travel arise, I need to be prepared. [Never know when Prince Charming is going to want to whisk you away to that private island]

26. A financial plan~ It doesn’t matter if you have 100 or 100,000 dollars having a financial plan ( or budget) should be a given. Wearing expensive clothes but eating ramen noodles isn’t okay after a certain age.

25. A good pair of black heels, a white button down shirt and a little black dress~ Do I really have to explain this one? These are part of the women over 25 survival kit.

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So Heartless…

*As written by Rachel Tenn for*

“She could be beautiful and warm on the outside, but inside, she’s cold because that’s what years of heartbreak will do to a girl.”

Cold. Heartless. Callous. Jaded. Alone. Here is the story of a girl who has lived anything but a fairytale. Instead, she got her heart broken one too many times, trusted too many times, chose the wrong person too many times.

Once upon a time, this girl was probably normal… if you can call it that. Willing to trust, willing to love, willing to let herself be candid with someone. But, following that came the heartbreak, the betrayal, the rejection. Take this story and multiply it by five or 10, and you have the finished product: a heartless, jaded girl.

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Soul Mate or Soul Tie? You Decide

*as written for

“Soul mate. Two little words. One big concept. The belief that someone, somewhere is holding the key to your heart, and your dream house. All you have to do is find them. Where is this person? And if you love someone and it didn’t work out, does that mean they weren’t your soulmate? Are they just a runner up in this game show called “Happily Ever After”?” ~Carrie Bradshaw

How many times have you said “He is the one, this is my soul mate?” only to break up a few months later? It seems people have the wrong idea of what a soul mate truly is. So what is a soul mate? Is it fair to say that every time you share yourself [intimately] with someone that your souls have mated? No, because being with someone physically does not necessarily mean they are your forever love it just means there is a sexual attraction.  We must learn to differentiate soul mates from soul ties. A soul tie is two souls tied together by the spirit; mainly caused by sex. A person who lives strongly inside the “word” will tell you “the act of sex is marriage through consummation.” Every single time an unmarried person has sex they become married to that person.” Not only is your soul tied to those you have been with, but it also tied to those they have been with and so and so forth. For example if someone has had twenty-five sex partners, they have probably been exposed to hundreds of other souls, simply put you have sex with everyone your partner has had sex with. [but we know this from high school sex education class]

A soul mate on the other hand simply put into laymen’s terms is, the epitome of love and partnership, your hearts other half life partner. The connection to that of a soul mate is immediate, in a soul ties situation the connection is bonded over time. Let me have you think for a minute about that one person who always seems to randomly cross your mind (for whatever reason), that is your soul tie. Soul ties can often be unhealthy and damaging. People are always using the excuse that sex is just sex, when that is not at all true because sex ties souls. Continue reading

The “She’s Gotta Have it Complex”

*as written for

Polyamory-“the practice, desire or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.”

In a society where the need for a variety seems to be all the rave, more and more people are accepting the idea of being polyamorous. These people feel that the idea of monogamy is highly overrated and find that being open about being in several, emotional (and physical) relationships at the same time is the way to go.

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Does skinnier mean happier?

This post was written by one of the newest member of my family…I still haven’t truly gotten to know her but I have learned she is a wonderful spirit. This was a great post and I thought I’d share it with my readers. Enjoy!!!

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It’s very common for women to feel imperfect. We only see our flaws and we ignore our true beauty. It’s easy to let ourselves fall into the trap of thinking we will love ourselves more if we lost 10 pounds; we’d love ourselves more if we had a thigh gap; we’d love ourselves more if our arms were thinner, stomach was flatter, butt was firmer. I could go on and on.
Here’s the problem with that way of thinking. It doesn’t stop.
You will never find confidence, happiness, contentment and self-esteem through losing pounds and shedding inches. When you do lose that first 10 pounds, you may feel great at first, but it won’t last. This is a temporary satisfaction that fades as soon as you find another flaw in yourself. It is easy to slip into believing that 10 pounds wasn’t enough, that you’re still “fat” and need to…

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