Wedding Bell Blues


“No. No, you can’t… STOP. Please don’t go away. Please? No one’s ever stuck with me for so long before. And if you leave… if you leave… I just, I remember things better with you. I do, look. P. Sherman, forty-two… forty-two… I remember it, I do. It’s there, I know it is, because when I look at you, I can feel it. And-and I look at you, and I… and I’m home. Please… I don’t want that to go away. I don’t want to forget.” –Finding Nemo

What is it about weddings that make people (women) crazy? Is it the stress and pressures of seating arrangements and music selections?or making sure everything is perfect with the dress? I’m sure for a bride those things can make one crazy, but what is it that drives guests or bridesmaids over the deep end?funny-wedding-cards-for-a-sweet-couple For a woman who is married or in a relationship weddings of others are no sweat, but what about the single lady? For some, weddings are a reminder of the ever ticking biological clock. (Listen closely,can you hear the ticking?) It’s not so much the idea of a wedding as much as it the idea of spending the rest of your life with someone. The idea that GOD took the time to create someone especially for you is a grand notion. Who doesn’t want something so great? Could it be that not all women want to be brides? Is it possible that not every woman is marriage material? Why does the sound of wedding bells sometimes sound like the blues?



As I stated in my previous post one of my closets friends Jen is getting married in May. Essentially I was supposed to be a bridesmaid, then I wasn’t, then I was now I’m not. So in an effort to make everyone happy on HER day, my dear sweet friend has decided that I am a very special guest at her wedding sitting me near the front with her family. In a way I was angry that I am not a bridesmaid, not because I wanted to be but it would have made my wardrobe dilemma non-existent. So now that I am not in the wedding and attending as a special guest, I have to find something to wear. All things taken into consideration, the style of the wedding, the style of the bride and groom, the time of day and location I have to make sure I am up to standard. Playing dress up is one of my favorite things to do, feeling like a princess for just a moment is always fun.

I have been searching for the perfect dress for the past 2 months, I tried to go the easy route and order my dress online. Needless to say this has become a FAIL! I ordered a pale peach colored full length sweetheart dress. The dress was strapless and extremely pretty in the picture, when I got it in the mail I was deeply disappointed.
In an attempt to step outside of my comfort zone by getting a dress any color but black I wasn’t happy at all with my choice, not only was the color off but so was the material and the way the dress fit. So I am back to square one, I had to stop and ask myself, “WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO WEAR TO AN AFTER FIVE WEDDING?” A million and one questions are going through my mind and I am driving myself crazy. Can you wear black? Are pant acceptable since it’s not in a church? If I do wear a dress can it be long or short? Will I look like a club goer if I wear a short dress? HUUUGGH!! I’m starting to think I need to actually go dress shopping and stop being lazy. I think I am just as stressed being a GUEST at this wedding as the BRIDE is about being the BRIDE!