Monogamous-To Be..Or not..To Be

How important is monogamy? A simple question yet the answer is anything but. In a society where infidelity is so wildly popular it seems this has become the societal norm. The sanctity of marriage has become stained because of scripted series such as Scandal. Although the epidemic of “side chicks” is nothing new, just now it is part of the main stream.
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Soul Mate or Soul Tie? You Decide

*as written for BallerAlert.com

“Soul mate. Two little words. One big concept. The belief that someone, somewhere is holding the key to your heart, and your dream house. All you have to do is find them. Where is this person? And if you love someone and it didn’t work out, does that mean they weren’t your soulmate? Are they just a runner up in this game show called “Happily Ever After”?” ~Carrie Bradshaw

How many times have you said “He is the one, this is my soul mate?” only to break up a few months later? It seems people have the wrong idea of what a soul mate truly is. So what is a soul mate? Is it fair to say that every time you share yourself [intimately] with someone that your souls have mated? No, because being with someone physically does not necessarily mean they are your forever love it just means there is a sexual attraction.  We must learn to differentiate soul mates from soul ties. A soul tie is two souls tied together by the spirit; mainly caused by sex. A person who lives strongly inside the “word” will tell you “the act of sex is marriage through consummation.” Every single time an unmarried person has sex they become married to that person.” Not only is your soul tied to those you have been with, but it also tied to those they have been with and so and so forth. For example if someone has had twenty-five sex partners, they have probably been exposed to hundreds of other souls, simply put you have sex with everyone your partner has had sex with. [but we know this from high school sex education class]

A soul mate on the other hand simply put into laymen’s terms is, the epitome of love and partnership, your hearts other half life partner. The connection to that of a soul mate is immediate, in a soul ties situation the connection is bonded over time. Let me have you think for a minute about that one person who always seems to randomly cross your mind (for whatever reason), that is your soul tie. Soul ties can often be unhealthy and damaging. People are always using the excuse that sex is just sex, when that is not at all true because sex ties souls. Continue reading

The “She’s Gotta Have it Complex”

*as written for BallerAlert.com

Polyamory-“the practice, desire or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.”

In a society where the need for a variety seems to be all the rave, more and more people are accepting the idea of being polyamorous. These people feel that the idea of monogamy is highly overrated and find that being open about being in several, emotional (and physical) relationships at the same time is the way to go.

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