Pray for Charleston

Like most of the country I woke this morning to the news of the mass shooting in the Emanuel AME church in Charleston, SC. A total of nine were killed at the historic Charleston church all of them African-American; the shooter a 19 year-old white man. This is being ruled as a hate crime by the Charleston police as they search for the gunman. You have to wonder what kind of times we are coming into when you aren’t safe in a place of worship. When I heard this sad and disturbing news it was Proverbs 4:7 and that entered my spirit.

“Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.”

We may never know why, but what we do know is that we must know GOD in these times for tomorrow is not promised. Love yourselves and more importantly love one another. In times like these we must have Faith.

Blessings… B

I’d Like to Use a Lifeline..


Over the years I have learned that nothing  in life is guaranteed, life as you know it can change in an instant. You could get injured, lose your job or worse lose a spouse. We go through life, living each day for what it’s worth not thinking of the what if’s. Each day you get up and go through your daily routine of brushing your teeth, eating breakfast and going into your office, rarely taking a moment to appreciate what has been given or acknowledging the fact that it could all be taken away in an instant. So I ask you, in the event of an unfortunate incident do you have a lifeline? Continue reading

Who Am I?

black-power-pin-8952628Do not be mislead by the title of this post, the question of “Who Am I”  is not one that will be answered within these lines. I recently found myself in the midst of a heated debate regarding race, religion and politics; three things I never get into discussions about. However, whenever I do find myself in situations where I am backed into a corner and must speak on religion, the surprise people exhibit on how well versed I am in the “Word” is priceless. (For many years my GODMother has claimed an anointing over me, indicating that my place is in the church) Throughout the course of the aforementioned conversation between myself and a friend who is currently in the process of “self-identification” and “discovery” I found myself wanting to pull my hair out strand by strand in several instances. This debate by far was one of the most draining I have ever been privy to. Please allow me to elaborate.
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Married or Single? Pick a Box

When you fill out a job application or a credit application and you get to the “Marital Status” question you are offered on of five options; “Married”, “Single”, “Seperated”, “Divorced” or “Widowed”. (never married is sometimes an added irrelevant option it’s the same as single). Nowhere on that application is there a box for “in a long-term relationship” or “living with my boyfriend”. Only on Facebook can you claim “In a relationship” or “It’s complicated”. marital-status-optionsTo put it plainly, society does not acknowledge a relationship that has not been consummated by marriage. Many, myself included believe that a piece of paper should not be needed to validate your love for someone, unfortunately unless you have that piece of paper you are single. You generally can not go to your job’s human resource office and say “I want to cover my girlfriend on my insurance” (unless this a domestic partner which is ass backwards if you ask me. The fact that a same-sex domestic partnership will be acknowledged before a “relationship” is baffling) I know this is a shocking thing for some but unfortunately it’s the truth and the truth hurts. It used to be that  you could live with someone for seven years and common law in Missouri acknowledged this as a marriage, that law was abolished in 1921. People will argue that a relationship is just as worthy to be acknowledged as a marriage, while I will agree I will also disagree. The sanctity of a relationship is up to you and your girlfriend/boyfriend not others, marriage is respected by all because it is something that was adorned under the eye of GOD. This is no way a religious post, however, as quoted in the good book; “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh” (Ephesians 5:31). “To be united with wife not his babymama or his girlfriend”, although, the Bible does not specifically state it is wrong for an adult man and adult woman who are unrelated to live together, it condemns sexual intimacy before marriage and it reveals that God has only one plan for a man and woman living together – marriage.Wedding Ring
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