Bags..Bags and More Bags….

As written for BallerAlert.com….

“You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could’ve, would’ve happened…or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the f**k on.” ~Lesane Parish Crooks

Allow me for one moment to question you. How much baggage are you carrying? How much anger and resentment burdens you daily? How much of your life passes you by because you can’t see beyond the past? Are you really being your whole self if you are weighing yourself down with unrequited emotions and unresolved issues? I’ll answer that for you, NO. Let’s be honest, nobody (man or woman) wants to enter into a relationship with someone who is carrying the burdens of the past. Continue reading

Soul Mate or Soul Tie? You Decide

*as written for BallerAlert.com

“Soul mate. Two little words. One big concept. The belief that someone, somewhere is holding the key to your heart, and your dream house. All you have to do is find them. Where is this person? And if you love someone and it didn’t work out, does that mean they weren’t your soulmate? Are they just a runner up in this game show called “Happily Ever After”?” ~Carrie Bradshaw

How many times have you said “He is the one, this is my soul mate?” only to break up a few months later? It seems people have the wrong idea of what a soul mate truly is. So what is a soul mate? Is it fair to say that every time you share yourself [intimately] with someone that your souls have mated? No, because being with someone physically does not necessarily mean they are your forever love it just means there is a sexual attraction.  We must learn to differentiate soul mates from soul ties. A soul tie is two souls tied together by the spirit; mainly caused by sex. A person who lives strongly inside the “word” will tell you “the act of sex is marriage through consummation.” Every single time an unmarried person has sex they become married to that person.” Not only is your soul tied to those you have been with, but it also tied to those they have been with and so and so forth. For example if someone has had twenty-five sex partners, they have probably been exposed to hundreds of other souls, simply put you have sex with everyone your partner has had sex with. [but we know this from high school sex education class]

A soul mate on the other hand simply put into laymen’s terms is, the epitome of love and partnership, your hearts other half life partner. The connection to that of a soul mate is immediate, in a soul ties situation the connection is bonded over time. Let me have you think for a minute about that one person who always seems to randomly cross your mind (for whatever reason), that is your soul tie. Soul ties can often be unhealthy and damaging. People are always using the excuse that sex is just sex, when that is not at all true because sex ties souls. Continue reading

The “She’s Gotta Have it Complex”

*as written for BallerAlert.com

Polyamory-“the practice, desire or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.”

In a society where the need for a variety seems to be all the rave, more and more people are accepting the idea of being polyamorous. These people feel that the idea of monogamy is highly overrated and find that being open about being in several, emotional (and physical) relationships at the same time is the way to go.

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Soul Mates and Dream Houses

“Soul mate. Two little words. One big concept. The belief that someone, somewhere is holding the key to your heart, and your dream house. All you have to do is find them. Where is this person? And if you love someone and it didn’t work out, does that mean they weren’t your soulmate? Are they just a runner up in this game show called “Happily Ever After”?” ~Carrie Bradshaw

 

Baggage Claim…

“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”  ~Mark Twain

Allow me for one moment to question you. How much baggage are you carrying? How much anger and resentment burdens you daily? How much of your life passes you by because you can’t see beyond the past? Are you really being your whole self if you are weighing yourself down with unrequited emotions and unresolved issues? I’ll answer that for you, NO.

The art of letting go is one not easily mastered, but it can be done, persistence is key. We never really realize the damage holding on to anger, sadness, bitterness and old feelings does to the vessel that is our body. (this includes your mind, your health and your spirit)  An angry person harboring ill feelings towards another is counterproductive. The person you are angry with, more than likely does not know you are angry or does not care and is living unbothered. You on the other hand subconsciously are being controlled by said  anger and unbeknownst to you this affects your mood, attitude and disposition. What quality of life does that bring?

“If you’re unhappy with anything, whatever is bringing you down get rid of it. Because you’ll find that when you’re free, your true creativity, your true self  comes out.”~Tina Turner

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