For the Writer in You….

As I thumbed through my now four year old blog I realized my posts are inconsistent. For a long while I wrote daily and now I am lucky if I post once a month. I’ve made every excuse not to write, including working on my novel. So as I was scrolling Pinterest looking for yet anothet distraction to keep me from writing I came across this pin. It is a quick and solid reminder to WRITE!!!! Maybe you need it or maybe just me, either way I thought Id share. 


Let Them Walk….

I can never share this sermon by Bishop T.D Jakes enough. It is one that I have printed the transcript for and taped it to the mirror in my bathroom. There are often times when someone wants to leave our lives and our first instinct is to the ask or beg them to stay. Not realizing that sometimes you have to let people walk away from you, and that doing so is OKAY! This is my  blessing to someone who is holding on to people who truly want to leave.



“There are people who can walk away from you.
And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk
Away from you: let them walk.
I don’t want you to try to talk another person into staying with you,
Loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you,
Staying attached to you.
I mean hang up the phone.
When people can walk away from you let them walk.
Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.
The Bible said that, they came out from us that it might
Be made manifest that they were not for us.
For had they been of us, no doubt they
Would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]
People leave you because they are not joined to you.
And if they are not joined to you, you can’t make them stay.
Let them go.
And it doesn’t mean that they are a bad person it just means
That their part in the story is over. And you’ve got
To know when people’s part in your story is over so that you
Don’t keep trying to raise the dead.
You’ve got to know when it’s dead.
You’ve got to know when it’s over. Let me tell you something.
I’ve got the gift of good-bye. It’s the tenth spiritual gift,
I believe in good-bye. It’s not that I’m hateful,
it’s that I’m faithful, and I know whatever God
Means for me to have He’ll give it to me.
And if it takes too much sweat I don’t need it.
Stop begging people to stay.
Let them go!!” ~Bishop T.D. Jakes

The Chef and the Elephant

“How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.” Sounds logical right? Sure, in theory, if we were able to apply this to every aspect of our lives how much easier things would be. I was sitting in an impromptu “therapy” session with my co-worker this morning when she said to me, “You can’t eat an elephant whole.” My first thought was; “Well who would want to eat an elephant at all?” But as we continued to talk things began to make sense.one_bite We are always looking at the “BIG” picture, seeing things as a whole as opposed to bits and pieces. We do that and become overwhelmed with all that is on our plate and its difficult to stomach it all. So the question comes, well how do you eat an elephant? That’s easy, one bite at a time. Its so easy to want things right away, which is why we are the microwaveable generation. No time to wait, everything has to be done fast. The notion of eating an elephant helped me realize that not all things are meant to be devoured whole, but bit by bit. Our session ended with a pep talk.


What’s Your Inspiration?

Last night, after a very successful photoshoot for my nail polish line Liquid Frosting I took a deep breath and took it all in. What began as simply an idea a little over three years ago has become a reality. A person who never commits to anything has finally seen something through to the very end. This for me was one of my proudest moments. So while in conversation with a close friend she asks, “B, what is your inspiration?” So often I am moving at such a fast pace that I never truly stop to think about what motivates and inspires  me most. An easy answer to her question would have been “my son”. While Dude is a great part of what drives me to want to do great things he is not the inspiration behind the brand I am building known as Liquid Frosting Nail Color. My answer was as follows:

” I am constantly inspired by the ugliness of things in premature form. Like dirt, with a little rain it blooms the most beautiful of flowers.” Does that make sense? I have always been one to find beauty in things people find to be distasteful and ugly, we sometimes despise storms not realizing that at the end of a storm is a rainbow. (Rainbows were GOD’s promise to never destroy the Earth by flood again). Or love, love at times in stages of infancy are far from beautiful but once you get past the newness of problems it is a beautiful thing. To see my vision go from the ugly stages of premature ideas to the beautiful brand it is evolving into is an inspiration in itself. So as I grow, and evolve and become better person all around I find that my inspiration is me. The rose that grew from concrete. (Thank you Ty)

“Did you hear about the rose that grew from a crack in the concrete?

Proving nature’s law is wrong it learned to walk with out having feet.

Funny it seems, but by keeping it’s dreams, it learned to breathe fresh air.

Long live the rose that grew from concrete when no one else ever cared.”

~Tupac Shakur
What is your inspiration?

A Journey…..

“When we are on a journey we don’t fear change, we welcome it, we look forward to new and unfamiliar experiences, we are full of optimism because we are filled with the expectation of a wonderful adventure and it’s the perfect attitude to carry with you every day because life too is a journey.” -Senora Roy

Here it is, 5:18 am on a Monday morning. Unable to sleep, I have been awake since 3. Like a kid on the first day of school my nerves and anxiety have gotten the best of me. It was admist my tossing and turning that I was reminded of a conversation with a friend and former co-worker. “B, I am on a journey. A journey to figure out who I am and what makes me happy. Everyday I am constantly peeling back layers of myself. I’m just on a journey.” Initially, I laughed at the thought then it hit me. (Kind of like a Carrie Bradshaw voice over) Everyday we embark on something new, despite repition, no day is like the day before. (Unless you’re Bill Murray in the movie GroundHog Day) Each day we are given, we are given an opportunity to do something new and different, given another chance to smile at someone you normally don’t smile at or something to that effect.

So as I lay here, now partaking in Sex and the City reruns I realize that today begins an entirely new journey for me. One that only the Most High himself could have orchestrated. But I also realize that in the four months leading up to this very moment I was then; also on a journey, a totally different path but none the less a journey. So, while nervous and anxious for what this day holds I shall hold my head high, take a deep breath, smile, go forward and look great while doing so.

“Eventually all the pieces fall into place….until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moment, and know that everything happens for a reason”
~ Carrie Bradshaw

Happy Monday!!