Let Them Walk….

I can never share this sermon by Bishop T.D Jakes enough. It is one that I have printed the transcript for and taped it to the mirror in my bathroom. There are often times when someone wants to leave our lives and our first instinct is to the ask or beg them to stay. Not realizing that sometimes you have to let people walk away from you, and that doing so is OKAY! This is my  blessing to someone who is holding on to people who truly want to leave.

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“There are people who can walk away from you.
And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk
Away from you: let them walk.
I don’t want you to try to talk another person into staying with you,
Loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you,
Staying attached to you.
I mean hang up the phone.
When people can walk away from you let them walk.
Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.
The Bible said that, they came out from us that it might
Be made manifest that they were not for us.
For had they been of us, no doubt they
Would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]
People leave you because they are not joined to you.
And if they are not joined to you, you can’t make them stay.
Let them go.
And it doesn’t mean that they are a bad person it just means
That their part in the story is over. And you’ve got
To know when people’s part in your story is over so that you
Don’t keep trying to raise the dead.
You’ve got to know when it’s dead.
You’ve got to know when it’s over. Let me tell you something.
I’ve got the gift of good-bye. It’s the tenth spiritual gift,
I believe in good-bye. It’s not that I’m hateful,
it’s that I’m faithful, and I know whatever God
Means for me to have He’ll give it to me.
And if it takes too much sweat I don’t need it.
Stop begging people to stay.
Let them go!!” ~Bishop T.D. Jakes

Pray for Charleston

Like most of the country I woke this morning to the news of the mass shooting in the Emanuel AME church in Charleston, SC. A total of nine were killed at the historic Charleston church all of them African-American; the shooter a 19 year-old white man. This is being ruled as a hate crime by the Charleston police as they search for the gunman. You have to wonder what kind of times we are coming into when you aren’t safe in a place of worship. When I heard this sad and disturbing news it was Proverbs 4:7 and that entered my spirit.

“Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.”

We may never know why, but what we do know is that we must know GOD in these times for tomorrow is not promised. Love yourselves and more importantly love one another. In times like these we must have Faith.

Blessings… B

Fear Factor..

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~ Marianne Williamson “A Return to Love”

By far one of the greatest quotes  ever written, this quote is often discredited to its author and credited to the late Nelson Mandela in his 1994 Inaugural speech. This is one of my personal favorites,  this paragraph speaks volumes if you listen closely. I was reminded of these words today as  I was having one of my many adventures in parenting. Not that I was faced with one my fears but I was reminded that I do in fact have a few. By far one of my greatest fears is that I will fail as a parent. (I mean isn’t this something all first time parents fear?) I have been a mom for nearly nine and a half years (I believe parenting begins long before birth) and I still find there are things that I have yet to learn or master. Each day with my son is different from the day before, so there is always something new. In accepting the fact that I do not now and may never know everything there is to know about anything, I fear that I will disappoint or fail my son. I fear that all I have done to be a positive role model for my son will be overshadowed by a past indiscretion or a one bad move. Then I am reminded of the words quoted above, “You are a child of GOD.” I don’t believe I would have been charged and blessed with such responsibility of raising such a resilient child if I were not properly equipped, for HE knew long before April 15, 2005 what was in store for me. It is in knowing that I am a child of GOD that gives me the courage I need to be fearless in everything I do.

What is your biggest fear?

Married or Single? Pick a Box

When you fill out a job application or a credit application and you get to the “Marital Status” question you are offered on of five options; “Married”, “Single”, “Seperated”, “Divorced” or “Widowed”. (never married is sometimes an added irrelevant option it’s the same as single). Nowhere on that application is there a box for “in a long-term relationship” or “living with my boyfriend”. Only on Facebook can you claim “In a relationship” or “It’s complicated”. marital-status-optionsTo put it plainly, society does not acknowledge a relationship that has not been consummated by marriage. Many, myself included believe that a piece of paper should not be needed to validate your love for someone, unfortunately unless you have that piece of paper you are single. You generally can not go to your job’s human resource office and say “I want to cover my girlfriend on my insurance” (unless this a domestic partner which is ass backwards if you ask me. The fact that a same-sex domestic partnership will be acknowledged before a “relationship” is baffling) I know this is a shocking thing for some but unfortunately it’s the truth and the truth hurts. It used to be that  you could live with someone for seven years and common law in Missouri acknowledged this as a marriage, that law was abolished in 1921. People will argue that a relationship is just as worthy to be acknowledged as a marriage, while I will agree I will also disagree. The sanctity of a relationship is up to you and your girlfriend/boyfriend not others, marriage is respected by all because it is something that was adorned under the eye of GOD. This is no way a religious post, however, as quoted in the good book; “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh” (Ephesians 5:31). “To be united with wife not his babymama or his girlfriend”, although, the Bible does not specifically state it is wrong for an adult man and adult woman who are unrelated to live together, it condemns sexual intimacy before marriage and it reveals that God has only one plan for a man and woman living together – marriage.Wedding Ring
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Lose weight, save money, work harder, be more organized.

Today marks a day we have never seen and one we will never see again. Many people make resolutions that
will be broken before the start of February, as I entered this new year I entered it with no resolves only a true and sincere desire to do and be better than years prior. I want to be a better mother and a better friend. I am challenging myself to write daily and to surround myself with people who only give off positive energy. I am relieving myself of all past emotionals burdens and looking forward with a clean heart. I vow to use my GOD given talents for the purpose in which they were intended. Go forward and be great yesterday is gone and tomorrow has yet to come, live for today.

BMarie