Let Them Walk….

I can never share this sermon by Bishop T.D Jakes enough. It is one that I have printed the transcript for and taped it to the mirror in my bathroom. There are often times when someone wants to leave our lives and our first instinct is to the ask or beg them to stay. Not realizing that sometimes you have to let people walk away from you, and that doing so is OKAY! This is my  blessing to someone who is holding on to people who truly want to leave.



“There are people who can walk away from you.
And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk
Away from you: let them walk.
I don’t want you to try to talk another person into staying with you,
Loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you,
Staying attached to you.
I mean hang up the phone.
When people can walk away from you let them walk.
Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.
The Bible said that, they came out from us that it might
Be made manifest that they were not for us.
For had they been of us, no doubt they
Would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]
People leave you because they are not joined to you.
And if they are not joined to you, you can’t make them stay.
Let them go.
And it doesn’t mean that they are a bad person it just means
That their part in the story is over. And you’ve got
To know when people’s part in your story is over so that you
Don’t keep trying to raise the dead.
You’ve got to know when it’s dead.
You’ve got to know when it’s over. Let me tell you something.
I’ve got the gift of good-bye. It’s the tenth spiritual gift,
I believe in good-bye. It’s not that I’m hateful,
it’s that I’m faithful, and I know whatever God
Means for me to have He’ll give it to me.
And if it takes too much sweat I don’t need it.
Stop begging people to stay.
Let them go!!” ~Bishop T.D. Jakes

Pray for Charleston

Like most of the country I woke this morning to the news of the mass shooting in the Emanuel AME church in Charleston, SC. A total of nine were killed at the historic Charleston church all of them African-American; the shooter a 19 year-old white man. This is being ruled as a hate crime by the Charleston police as they search for the gunman. You have to wonder what kind of times we are coming into when you aren’t safe in a place of worship. When I heard this sad and disturbing news it was Proverbs 4:7 and that entered my spirit.

“Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.”

We may never know why, but what we do know is that we must know GOD in these times for tomorrow is not promised. Love yourselves and more importantly love one another. In times like these we must have Faith.

Blessings… B

Fear Factor..

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~ Marianne Williamson “A Return to Love”

By far one of the greatest quotes  ever written, this quote is often discredited to its author and credited to the late Nelson Mandela in his 1994 Inaugural speech. This is one of my personal favorites,  this paragraph speaks volumes if you listen closely. I was reminded of these words today as  I was having one of my many adventures in parenting. Not that I was faced with one my fears but I was reminded that I do in fact have a few. By far one of my greatest fears is that I will fail as a parent. (I mean isn’t this something all first time parents fear?) I have been a mom for nearly nine and a half years (I believe parenting begins long before birth) and I still find there are things that I have yet to learn or master. Each day with my son is different from the day before, so there is always something new. In accepting the fact that I do not now and may never know everything there is to know about anything, I fear that I will disappoint or fail my son. I fear that all I have done to be a positive role model for my son will be overshadowed by a past indiscretion or a one bad move. Then I am reminded of the words quoted above, “You are a child of GOD.” I don’t believe I would have been charged and blessed with such responsibility of raising such a resilient child if I were not properly equipped, for HE knew long before April 15, 2005 what was in store for me. It is in knowing that I am a child of GOD that gives me the courage I need to be fearless in everything I do.

What is your biggest fear?

The Inevitable is Bound to Happen

No one can confidently say that they will be living tomorrow. ~Euripides

What is it about death that makes one evaluate life? What is about a sudden passing that forces us to rethink certain ways of thing or choices? Why does it take the loss of a friend or family member for us to make long needed changes to way we are living? No stranger to death I have experienced a lot of great loss during my twenty plus years of life. You would think that one who has seen as much death as I have that I would become numb, but I believe that at any time you become numb to a loss as great as death than you yourself may no longer be living. heaven

Today was no different, I woke up to news of a loss and immediately my heart got heavy and I begin to re-evaluate my own life. Having a strong religious background I am a strong believer in that once you have accepted the Word you have no fear of the unknown that lies in death. Nothing in life is certain accept death, just as sure as you are born you are going to die. Death is the inevitable and unfortunately we don’t know when or how because it is already written. We reason with ourselves telling ourselves that when it’s our time, it’s our time. Do we truly believe this to be true? Is it possible that in some cases we help the process along? Not realizing that if we would have done one thing differently that life would still be lived? Am I making sense? Maybe not, but who has ever made sense of death? It may seem cliche’, but life is short, so live each like day as if it were your last. Tomorrow is not promised today. Do yourself a favor and let go of burdens, grudges and harsh feelings. Do that one thing you have always wanted to do, tell someone you forgive them or another that you love them. Don’t wait until it’s too late and the words don’t have meaning.


Rest In Peace “Stage” another angel has been added to the Kingdom.


"Day 5"

The purpose of fasting is to not be so dependent on outside “wordly” things and addictions and focus on your relationship with GOD. Well this is day 5 of my fast and I have yet to master my connection and talking with GOD. Today was one of the most stressful days I have had in a while. When I get stressed or things don’t go as I have planned I tend to shut down or take my frustrations out on any and everyone. I will admit that I did a lot of socializing on Twitter today, however it was not in a negative or venting manner so I am proud of the self control that I exhibited there. When the day began to get rougher and I started feeling sick I refrained from getting on the site and instead internalized what I was feeling. Internalizing anger is not healthy either, but it is better than allowing the world to share your moments of weakness. I was so exhausted and worn from doing more before 9 am than most do all day this morning that by 12 I was ready to call it a day. However my day was far from over and I could not sit down and rest, it was then that the craving for a Red Bull/lemonade slushy kicked it. I had to pray off the craving, asking GOD to ease the urge. I know this sounds crazy but addictions are different for everyone and this is one of mine. I am proud to only be addicted to Red Bull, when there are so many people going through addictions to things much worse.
I am embarking on this fast in an attempt to get closer to GOD, but to be honest I think I am afraid to submit to HIM fully. I have yet to block out all the outside noise and distractions and talk to GOD and sit and wait for an answer. My Godmother told me one day that instead of talking over him that I needed to listen, I needed to stop being so impatient and listen, because when I shut up it is then that I will truly be able to hear. This fast was not the idea of my pastor or the influence of anyone else it was my own. So I owe to myself to fully commit and get the most of it. If at the end of the 30 days I do not feel as though I have done so I will continue until my soul and heart is happy.
The Journey continues……