The truth that survives is simply the lie that is pleasantest to believe. — H. L. Mencken
I’ve heard the best love is forbidden love, a love that you know is no good for you, a love that makes you feel so high one moment and lower than low the next. There is nothing more intoxicating than a forbidden love, a love you can’t tell even your closest friends about, a love that you hate to admit to yourself exists. Yeah, there is nothing at all like a forbidden love. So many times we hear the stories of men who are unfaithful, the stories of men having a mistress or a side chick. The stories of women finding out their man has taken a bite of the forbidden fruit that is infidelity. What about women? Are women not capable of being unfaithful? The truth of it is, women are capable and very guilty of being unfaithful, the difference between men and women is that we have less of a tendency to be sloppy and get caught. If you don’t mind I’d like to take you into the mind of a cheater.
“Monogamy or whatever you call it, I’m starting to think it ain’t for everybody.Most of us rushing into it anyways.” ~Wale “Bad”
There are very few people who enter into a relationship with the intent to cheat. The point of committing is to be monogamous, however for some monogamy has become ancient history or urban legend. The tradition of true commitment is antiquated and a thing of times gone past for some. I ask the question, what is the point of making a committment to a relationship if you are going to cheat? If that person doesn’t have all the qualities it takes to please you then why get involved? Valid questions with no simple answers. In the beginning a person could have everything you believe you want and need in a mate, but as days becomes weeks and weeks turn to months things begin to change and you question your choice. The man who once looked so good to you, isn’t all that anymore, you start to notice the small things you didn’t notice before during courtship. He no longer opens doors, he holds you differently, the way he brushes his teeth or leaves his shoes and basketball shorts in the middle of the floor start to slowly irk you. Once one thing begins to bother you everything they do becomes a problem. You begin to question the choice you made to sign an unwritten contract with this person, but you have committed so you stay. It doesn’t take long before you dread going home and being within five feet of the man you once couldn’t stand to be apart from. Once you have reached the point of aggravation it won’t be long before you are easily tempted.
Just like Eve and the apple, the temptation to eat the forbidden fruit for me was real. What started out as innocent, virtual conversation soon turned into something seductive and mature. I’d never looked at a man the way I looked at him, a man had never made me feel the way he made me feel. In all my years of dating I’d never been touched the way he touched me, it was far more than on the surface his fingertips could reach the deepest places within my soul. Loyalty is everything and up until I met him I had never been loyal to any man I’d ever known. There was something about him that made my entire body shiver when he spoke, the way he said my name was like music to my ears. It was like I was a puppet and he knew exactly what to do to pull my strings. He had that Billy Dee Williams in “Lady Sings the Blues” mixed with a little Victor Newman in him, he was the upper echelon of sexy and he had my nose wide open. I was drawn to him, like a fat kid to chocolate, like a bee to honey. There was only one problem, I already had a man.
~To Be Contiued~