To Appreciate or Not Appreciate?

It’s a known fact that women are emotionally driven creatures, some of the smallest of comments or incidents can send us spiraling into a down pour of emotion and tears. This is normal and to be expected,  but from a woman of course. For some reason people tend to take that fact that men are and can be sometimes just as emotionally driven as women. We tend to take for granted the fact that men have feelings just like we do,or that men get tired the same way we do. For example, take the man who wakes up at 5am every morning, cooks breakfast for four children (in which only two are biologically linked to him but that doesn’t matter cause he loves you AND YOUR children), goes to work for 8 hours only to come home to answer a million and one questions from these same four children, give them baths and put them to bed. (All of this while having a spouse.) You think he doesn’t want or need a break every now and then? You think he wouldn’t appreciate a night off? As women we see this and think, “OMG my man is great! I love him.” This is a cool way of thinking, that’s the way should you feel about your man, but for some reason it just doesn’t click to us that while he knows that he is loved, he doesn’t feel as though he is appreciated. A woman is quick to open her mouth and air her grievances, about how she doesn’t feel wanted, she doesn’t feel appreciated and a long laundry list of other things she doesn’t feel, a man on the other hand is not going to do that (at least not a straight man anyway) because it is not a part of their swag. But, just like women, men have a breaking point and can only take so much unappreciative attitude and behavior before he snaps and is ready to leave your ungrateful ass right where you stand. When this finally does happen women so quick to fall all out, start screaming and crying like she is trying to win an Oscar being all dramatic. That does NOTHING to a man that is fed up, he will look at you doing all that extra shit and keep walking. One thing I have learned is that a good man is hard to find, so when you get one hold on to him and treat him like the king that he was born to be. Most women have this dumb ass notion that by treating a man the way he is SUPPOSED to be treated that she is becoming submissive. (That’s a whole nother can of worms though). All men really want the same thing, to be appreciated the same way he appreciates you, the least you could do as a WOMAN is fulfill that. It is not that difficult. If he isn’t feeling appreciated at home, trust and believe HE will get appreciated someway but someone.

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