In this day and age everybody is attached to someone else in one way or another. Rather it be in a relationship, marriage, intimately, or share children everyone is attached. So does it truly come as a surprise that the person that you are digging tells you they have a girlfriend or fiance’? Why do you find yourself getting upset and in your feelings when he tells you that he still has a good functional relationship with his child’s mother? I mean honestly did you think you were the only woman feeling him out here? (I’d like to believe no woman is that naive but I know better) My question is this: When realizing the man you are digging has someone else he is dealing with, rather casual or serious do you continue pursuing him?
Often times we as women allow our emotions to drive out better judgement and plain old know better. (“Girl why you messing with that married man? I know you know better! I didn’t raise you like that! *in my mama voice*) I am well aware that men are quite the deceitful species and will hide the moon and stars from you if they could. However all things are revealed in time, and most of the time it doesn’t take long for someone’s hand to be played. In the beginning he may take you to the movies or out to eat and talk to you for hours on end and the sex just may be life changing. All that is fine, until the all day calls and texts become scarce, the sex is very hard to come by (No pun intended) women being the emotionally unstable creatures that we are immediately go into panic mode and start wondering what is going on and what did they do wrong. Start blowing the man’s phone up with all kinds of calls and texts asking question after question. Now he may have lost interest, or he may busy but more times than not there is someone else. Some men are man enough to tell you this while others will either continue avoiding you. Now you also have your no goods, the ones that will continue a whole relationship with you AND his chick at home.
Of course there are some women who are content being a side piece, this is their personal choice who are we to judge. But you have to wonder what is it that makes a woman content with being with another woman’s man? How is that you know that he goes home to someone else every night, is emotional attached to another woman yet you are content with the peanuts he throws you by seeing you every now and then or leaves you with a wet twat here and there? At some point every woman goes through a time where she is deceived and cheated on by someone that she truly loves. So why in the HELL would you want to be the other woman and the reason that another woman endures that pain? Are you truly content with not seeing that man on holidays? Going to duck off spots to have sex? Really is that the life you want? Some women get too comfortable and end up pregnant, as if that is going to make the situation change. There are too many men in this world for you to be sharing dick. (not to mention all the diseases people are coming up now a days.) In some cases a woman is truly oblivious to the fact that she is “the other woman”, where the man is just so smooth that he covers all his tracks. So in all honesty they are just as much a victim as the significant other. But all these scandalous women out here sleeping with, having babies by another woman’s man how do you sleep at night? Do you honestly believe he is going to leave her and be with you? My mother and grandmother drilled one thing into my mind as I became a woman, “A man that cheats WITH you is going to cheat ON you”. So go ahead and allow these men to keep to sell you a dream, you’ll wake the hell up eventually.