"Spilled Milk"

Growing up my Granny would always say, “Ain’t no use in crying over spilled milk.” Of course as a kid you really have no idea what that means so it would go in one ear and out the other. It has been recently that I realized exactly what that meant. I was crying the other day and my mother said, “Why are you crying over spilled milk?” I immediately stopped the waterworks and looked at her. I didn’t have to wonder what the symbolic meaning was anymore.
As human beings we often try to fix things that we already knew we had no control over to begin with. Thats just human nature, so is it really something wrong with that? To a certain degree no, however what is the purpose in attemtping to change things when it’s out of your control to begin with? One error that we make is trying to change people. You can not change someone and make them into who you want them to be. It’s just not possible. A person has to decide if you being in their life is worth making needed changes. You may not like the way they dress or the way they wear their hair, but ultimately the choice is not up to if they start shopping in a different store or go to a different salon. You can tell them all you want that if they don’t make the changes that you are going to leave them, thinking that threats are the way to go. But if you aren’t that important to them they aren’t going to change. What are you going to do? Are you going to get angry, cause a fuss or go your seperate ways? Nine times out of ten you are just going to get angry and cause a fuss. There’s is obviously something about that person that keeps you with them, even with the flaws and imperfections. Then there is that something that hurts you, that makes you want to just walk away from it all and say it’s just not worth it. At times it becomes too much to handle and you feel as though you just want to give up and call it quits. Those are those times that all you can do is cry, it is those times that you stop and ask yourself, “Why am I crying over spilled milk? Isn’t this the path I chose? Didn’t I know what I was getting myself into when I decided to take this path?” So what is left for you to do? You can continue crying and being angry over something you know you can’t change or you can get the balls to leave a sitaution you are so unhappy in and find the happiness you know you deserve. Sure it’s going to hurt, but again that’s a part of life and the experience of growing. You have to learn to take the good with the bad, the pain with the joy. If you don’t then there is no way you can truly evolve as a human being. So when you find yourself crying over a situation you knew wasn’t going to change to begin with, stop and say,” Ain’t no point in crying over spilled milk. Clean the shit up, get a new gallon and decide if you’re going to eat cereal or dip chocolate chip cookies.”

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